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Would you ever drive a car blindfolded?
Would you ever go climbing up a mountain blindfolded?
Would you ever drive a boat blindfolded?
Would you ever ride a bike blindfolded?
Of course, you would not! Disaster would be the
results. Yet, many have started out in their adult life, including their marriages, with blind-folders
on their eyes. Why is that? It happens when people lack the basic ABCs
of character traits.
As a result, too many have been blind-sided in
their relationships. Conflict is the result. They find it upsetting
when their friend or partner is too bossy, or too talkative, or not
good with money, or disorganized, etc. They find it shocking and
surprising as though they had no forewarning signs to read at all.
In reality, the signs were written clearly for them to read. They
could have read those signs in advance to see the warnings. Why
did they not read them? The answer is simple. They were written
in a language that was unknown to them. That language is the language
of character. Have you learned that language yet?
The lack of knowing the language of character is the cause of many conflicts.
By learning this language, you can identify the genuine traits, the counterfeit
traits, and the traits that are most likely to cause problems. By learning
this language, you can reduce the amount of bad surprises that you will find
with yourself and the people in your life.
Too many have seen those problems creeping into their relationships. So
many conflicts occur that we have coined a cute little expression to tell
each other about it. We call those conflicts irreconcilable differences. When marriages break up these days, we often label the situation as having irreconcilable differences.
- Imagine if you could know what character strengths
cause the most conflict in your life.
- Imagine if you could know which counterfeits you were using when you lost your temper or act poorly.
- Imagine if you could help others to see which
character strengths they are using or misusing.
- Imagine if you could find which character qualities are part of your Blue Zone or Safe Zone qualities, which never cause harm, insult, or injury to yourself or others. Solving Conflicts Diagnosis Tool in Part Two will help you find the ones in your most Safe Zone.
- Imagine having a better plan than trying to
change an
unwilling partner.
When you try to change people, it always leads them
to feel like they are not being accepted for whom they are. That one
thing causes many conflicts. Learning how to speak with others in the
language of character is the answer.
Solving Conflicts is a system to learn about
yourself and others.
Solving Conflicts
Part Two will teach you to understand
better the genuine traits. It will also teach you how the counterfeit
traits cause conflict. You will get sage advice on how to improve
your genuine traits and how to stop using counterfeit traits in order
to avoid and solve conflict. With a little bit of regular practice,
you will learn how to use the language of character.
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